Monday, April 20, 2015

Monday's Matter FHE: Grumpy Bird

At our house and millions of others around the globe Monday nights are reserved for family.  A Family Home Evening (FHE) complete with some sort of lesson or discussion, usually some singing and always lots of fun!

Monday's Matter:  The substance which composes your Monday.

What's your Monday made up of?  How about some laughter, learning and love?  Then let's get to gettin'!  FHE here we come!!

I'd like to welcome everyone out to Family Home Evening!

You know how it goes.

You call out in your nicest, sweetest, most convincing voice for the family to gather together so you can start your FHE and nothing happens...

The TV is still on.

The cat just looks at you and then goes back to grooming.

At least the dog came when called.

The clock ticks loudly.









(Smile sweetly as everyone the dog, the cat, the husband rushes in this is going to be so much fun!).

{Opening Prayer} Eenie, meenie, minee, moe... 

{Opening Song} If I Had a Boat (clean up the word in the 4th verse), listen to it here minute 10:20

We love to learn new songs and a silly song is all the better.  This one is beautiful to sing and makes no sense at all so it is perfect!  Just be sure to change the word in verse 4! 

{Read and Discuss}

*For this FHE you will need a delicious treat for the lesson.  Anything your family would really love.

Ask for volunteers tell them you are going to ask them to do a simple activity and if they can do it then they get a treat!  If they fail they cannot have a treat.

Hand them all a small tube of toothpaste (like the kind your dentist gives you for free when you have a check up).

Ask them to squeeze out the toothpaste onto a paper plate.

Was that easy or difficult?

Then ask them to put it all back - or no treat!

Just like squeezing out all that toothpaste, being quick to anger can be easy.  Spewing forth angry words, name calling, hitting siblings and being unkind can be quick but often leaves feelings that are difficult to "put back" or make right.  A few seconds of words spoken in anger can lead to damages that take much more time to heal.

"A proverb in the Old Testament states: “He that is slow to anger is better than the mighty; and he that ruleth his spirit than he that taketh a city” (Proverbs 16:32).
It is when we become angry that we get into trouble. The road rage that affects our highways is a hateful expression of anger. I dare say that most of the inmates of our prisons are there because they did something when they were angry. In their wrath they swore, they lost control of themselves, and terrible things followed, even murder. There were moments of offense followed by years of regret."
Being angry hurts everyone including the one who is angry.  Is it any wonder that the scriptures admonishes us that contention is of the devil?  President Gordon B Hinkley related this story...
"So many of us make a great fuss of matters of small consequence. We are so easily offended. Happy is the man who can brush aside the offending remarks of another and go on his way.
Grudges, if left to fester, can become serious maladies. Like a painful ailment they can absorb all of our time and attention. Guy de Maupassant has written an interesting chronicle that illustrates this.
It concerns Master Hauchecome, who on market day went to town. He was afflicted with rheumatism, and as he stumbled along he noticed a piece of string on the ground in front of him. He picked it up and carefully put it in his pocket. He was seen doing so by his enemy, the harness maker.
At the same time it was reported to the mayor that a pocketbook containing money had been lost. It was assumed that what Hauchecome had picked up was the pocketbook, and he was accused of taking it. He vehemently denied the charge. A search of his clothing disclosed only the piece of string, but the slander against him had so troubled him that he became obsessed with it. Wherever he went he bothered to tell people about it. He became such a nuisance that they cried out against him. It sickened him.
“His mind kept growing weaker and about the end of December he took to his bed.
“He passed away early in January, and, in the ravings of [his] death agony, he protested his innocence, repeating:
“‘A little [piece] of string—a little [piece] of string. See, here it is, [Mister Mayor.]’” (See “The Piece of String,”"

Elder Russel M Nelson remarked, "As we dread any disease that undermines the health of the body, so should we deplore contention, which is a corroding canker of the spirit. I appreciate the counsel of Abraham Lincoln, who said:

“Quarrel not at all. No man resolved to make the most of himself can spare time for personal contention. … Better give your path to a dog than be bitten by him.” (Letter to J. M. Cutts, 26 Oct. 1863, in Concise Lincoln Dictionary of Thoughts and Statements, comp. and arr. Ralph B. Winn, New York: New York Philosophical Library, 1959, p. 107.)"

And President Ezra Taft Benson said, "My concern is that contention is becoming accepted as a way of life. From what we see and hear in the media, the classroom, and the workplace, all are now infected to some degree with contention. How easy it is, yet how wrong it is, to allow habits of contention to pervade matters of spiritual significance, because contention is forbidden by divine decree: “The Lord God hath commanded that men should not murder; that they should not lie; that
they should not steal; that they should not take the name of the Lord their God in vain; that they should not envy; that they should not have malice; that they should not contend one with another.” (2 Ne. 26:32.)"
So what should we do when we feel grumpy and angry?

Here are a few suggestions, in no particular order.  Make a list of your own too....

#1 Take a deep breath and pray your attitude can change
#2 Go get some exercise
#3 Go play the drums or just bang on some pots and pans
#4 Batting Cages
#5 Listen to the Aussie read the scholastic book Grumpy Bird!!!

#6 Eat something
#7 Watch a funny show or movie

(#5 and #6 are your activity and treat)

{Closing song} If You're Happy

{Closing Prayer} Call on your grumpiest bird

{FHE Doesn't Have to Be PERFECT, It Just Has to BE!}


McEntire Family said...

Love that you do this! Sometimes I forget - but not tonight. My super competitive 8 year old was flabbergasted at what he was expected to do to get his FHE treat. The cries of "not fair" could be heard for miles! Thanks for being so great!

Michael and Amber said...

Thanks so much McEntire Family!!! I am so happy to know you tried it and had fun <3