Tuesday, October 14, 2014

Adventures in Infertility #85

#85 Facebook:  Friend or Frenemy of the Infertile?

I have read SO MANY articles and blog posts and "your ecards" revolving around how hurtful Facebook can be for someone struggling to have a baby.  Cards and articles like the ones below...

"While the number of women struggling with infertility and turning to the web to read blogs on the topic grows steadily, those same women shudder each time they open up their Facebook to yet another "Peanut was kicking me all night! Can't wait for the due date!" status update."
"Infertile Women are Afraid of Facebook"

"I know (facebook pregnancy posts are) not meant to hurt, but you feel like you're getting kicked every time you see these," said Colling, 28, who lives in Baltimore County and has been trying to get pregnant since 2006. "I have to unfriend people for a while. If I was smart, I wouldn't go on Facebook anymore, but I'd completely lose connections with family and friends."
"For Infertile Couples Facebook is a Minefield"

Life is full of challenges for the fertile and infertile alike.  Yes it stings to read about a friend's happy pregnancy/baby/child experiences but SO WHAT?!

That's right.  SO WHAT?  If I was pregnant I would hope to make the same joyous announcements, post the same adorable pregnant belly photos and plaster the interweb with thousands of newborn pics.

"It hurts to see!"  you say?

"It isn't fair!"  I hear ya!

"I wish it was me!"  Right there with ya sister!

However true these feelings are, let us pay heed to Dieter F. Uchtdorf's council,

"There is enough heartache and sorrow in this life without our adding to it through our OWN stubbornness, bitterness and resentment."

Not working for ya?

How about, "...Thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself."  Matt 22:39?

{If that doesn't work for you, you can always turn the tables and post pictures of}

You sleeping in.

Your husband resting his head against your flat, non pregnant belly.

You not having to get up to go the bathroom in the middle of the night because the baby is kicking your bladder.

You eating anything you want and then NOT throwing it up from morning sickness.

You with your stacks of cash because you are not paying the hospital for delivering your baby.

GOTCHA! You don't have stacks of cash because you blew it all on fertility medicine and paying a fertility specialist to be all up in your bidness! (but the other stuff is totally legit!) ;)

*Laughter is the best medicine right?  Why not laugh at my infertility?!  I do not mean to offend with any of these posts, it is just a way to let go a little and see the humor in our situation. Please laugh with me!

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