Wednesday, July 30, 2014

Adventures in Infertility #69

#69 Let Go Infertility!  That's MINE!

 Family Vacations

Friends and family of ours often push aside daily responsibilities to take their kids on family vacations to "build memories" and to "strengthen family bonds"  sometimes they are even because someone in the family did something great and they want to celebrate or because it is summer/spring/winter break and they want to "have some fun together."  As an infertile couple I can tell you we have a hard time justifying putting aside the daily grind and rewarding ourselves with a vacation or planning a trip just to create memories and strengthen relationships especially when we could should? be using that money to pay for more infertility treatment or tosave for adoption.

Aside from the fact that we spent all our money on fertility treatments we just don't feel like we are worth a vacation. We are lucky our family invites us to visit otherwise we would never go anywhere. Shouldn't we be able to do all of those things in our spare time, after all it is just the two of us?  No need to take time off when we see each other every night with lots of uninterrupted adult time, right?

Don't get me wrong, we have been quite a few places!  Just recently we spent a whole week in NYC visiting some family, and in May we went on a family trip to Disneyland, and most years we drive out to ABQ to visit family.  These trips are always amazing and so much fun!  I often find myself crying on the trip home, sad that it was all over so soon and sad to leave such precious family.  However, it's just not the same as a VACATION.  I should know, we took one in 2002 to Miami for a week and a half and then again only 11 years later to Hawaii for four days.  Relaxing with my honey, watching sunsets and having no particular schedule what-so-ever, to me is vacation.

There are so many places we planned on taking our brood of children when we first got married.  What if we go now and then by some miracle end up having kids?  We would just have to go back again.  But what if we never have kids and never go anywhere?

I think we shouldn't feel guilty about going away a few weekends a year and having some fun.  I also think it would be nice if others didn't give us grief for taking some time for a few fun vacations.  Trying to make us feel guilty is not cool.

Here are some of the things I hope to see/do with my husband:

Grand Canyon
All Major League Ball Parks
Disney World

Wizarding World of Harry Potter
Pacific Northwest
New Orleans

New England in the FALL
Washington DC
Europe (I've been by the hubby hasn't)
Opening night of A Prarie Home Companion with the street dance and Meatloaf dinner included
All the LDS Church Sites
Niagra Falls
Vancouver, BC
Hawaii (again!)

What's that Grams?  You wish you would have gone on vacation before your 80th birthday? He looks like he wishes the same thing ;)

*Laughter is the best medicine right?  Why not laugh at my infertility?!  I do not mean to offend with any of these posts, it is just a way to let go a little and see the humor in our situation. Please laugh with me!

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