Why is it when
Friends say, "Don't worry, you can have one of mine!"
They are always talking about this one...
Yet, still you wish they weren't joking.
9. “Don’t worry; you can borrow my kids!” LDS Living: What Not To Say to Childless Couples
This comment not only devalues the blessings of parenthood but also implies that “borrowing” children would resolve the grief of infertility. Not wanting to “borrow” children, however, does not necessarily mean not enjoying being around them.
Some childless couples are in a place of healing where they can interact and be around children, but some aren’t. Baby showers, baby blessings, children’s birthday parties, and the like can be salt in an open wound. Childless couples appreciate thoughtful invitations to child and family events, but please let them know they can decline or leave early without giving offense. Allowing childless couples to heal at their own pace shows great support and compassion and can be very helpful to them while working through their grieving process.
If you are going to jokingly offer us your kid, at least offer to let us have the well-behaved one! ;)